Working it Out

I don't pretend to be an expert when it comes to relationships. Everybody who knows me and those who I had relationships with can attest that I suck when it comes to being a better half. But why do I write about something I suck at? Well, I believe that my failures has taught me alot and I want to share it to everyone who wants to listen.

First off, I used to believe that relationships starts because of the the so called "spark". Back then, I will immediately turn down a person I just met because there is no "spark" when we had coffee. What the --?? Imagine the number of people I hurt because I won't give them a chance of proving themselves because of such a lame ass reasoning?? And how about those people that I had relationships with? I readily said "I love you" before even knowing the real persno behind the mask just because there was a "spark". I can go on and on but it will just get nasty. I have already made a post about this one so just go dig my archive about that one. This post is not about starting a relationship anyway. It's about maintaining it.

I just read from Jhed's latest post about a friend asking him how to tell his lover that he's no longer in love with him after 2 years of being together. I do not know what is happening between their relationship so I will not and can not comment about it. But what I do know is this. People stay together not because of love. People stay together because of faith. Yes you were both inlove in the early part of your relationship. I don't deny that. But after 3 or so months, that love changes. It matures. Let me rephrase. It Must Mature! We grow old, so must our love for each other. But what happens when you feel that you are "no longer" inlove with you mate? Do you just say, "Hey Sorry I don't love you anymore. Thanks for the 2 years!". People believe you me when I say that it happens! We may be bored of being with our mate or seeing them or talking to them everyday. But that doesn't mean you don't love him/her anymore! You just need to try different things. Or even try a different approach. Suprise each other every now and then. And don't fling around the phrase "I love you" every so often. Let your partner crave for it. It helps. Trust me. I know.

I can go on and on about this post but it's getting late and I need to be with my Bebhe instead of infront of my monitor. So here's the juice about this one. Don't say "I don't love him anymore". Reality check, you don't love him the first time you were together. If it's a spark, then it's just lust. If there were no spark and love blossoms during the course of time, then it might be love. Don't you want to make sure every possibility is exhausted first before giving up? I know I would.

"Work begins where love ends" - Anon

A very "Enchated" Day

I planned to go to Enchanted Kingdom with Mink last Sunday, November 4. Actually, it was Turismoboi's idea. Unfortunately, I had to cancel 2 days before our trip because my Bebhe, who went back to his hometown for the holidays will be coming home on that said day. Of course I will be spending that day with him instead. So Saturday came, the evening before the trip, I already confirmed to Mink that I will not be able to joinn when he informed me that for some reason, Turismoboi will not be able to join them. So it will be just him, Gripen, and Davenport. I just wished them good luck and decided to rest for the evening when I received a message from my Bebhe that he will be coming home that very night! I was ecstatic! I will be seeing my Bebhe after 4 days of being apart from each other! Oh how I miss him! I immediately started cleaning because the place was a mess! Yes I'm a slob. But before I was able to completely clean the apartment, my Bebhe arrived.

[insert kilig moments here]

After making sure that my Bebhe's well rested, I started to regale him of my unexciting holidays spent in the apartment playing "mosquitos" in my phone. And when the topic about EK was brought up, My Bebhe bolted upright and said that he wanted to go to EK. I then informed him that there is a possibility that we will be seeing my blogosphere pals there. And to my suprise, he said "It's OK". Whoaa!!! I didn't know what to do or to check his temperature. Because this is my Bebhe not caring about seeing my friends! Usually, he will be his anti-social self but today... I immediately grab the opportunity and made the plans to be in EK as early as possible!

.Sunday.

We woke up just before 10am and after eating breakfast, I hastily prepared everything so that we can leave for EK. Everything was just great! And we even get to see the remains of Glorietta 2 when we went to makati for our ride!

.EK.

When we arrived at EK, I sent Mink a message saying that we already there. Mink was there already with Davenport as early as 10am. Hahaha addicts!!! Anyway, we met each other, and for the first time, I was able to do one of the things that I wanted to do for the longest time. Introduce my Bebhe to my friends. Introductions were made and we started to stroll around the part. Nothing much was said but as the day progressed, I saw and felt that my friends made sure that my Bebhe felt welcome and my Bebhe, the ever charmer, made sure that he was not a killjoy all through out the day. What more can a guy ask for?

Altough we ended the day earlier than expected (Davenport got dizzy with the rides and everyone except for Bebhe and Mink got wet because of the jungle log jam and the rio grande rapids)We went home around 8pm. Of course this was after our little chit chat about sex, relationships, and more sex.

All in all, the day went great! Soak, cold, sleepy, tired,, but definitely happy. As the old folks say, "This one is for the books!"

"Magic is the bond between friends. Unseen yet Poweful." - Anon

Rekindling the Fire

Its been a while since I was here. As many of you know, I just came back from a well deserve rest from blogging. It did bring some bad issues along with it but what's really important is that I got my rest and now, fully energized, I'm back in the blogging world!

As many of you will say, its not that easy to get back on one's own feet. It takes time. And that's what I will just do. I will take time in going back to blogging to avoid burning out again.

So! What to write on this glorius Monday night? I know! Why not start with the rumor that went around about me closing my blog? Yup! That will be nice. I noticed that some of my blogmates speculated about the sudden decision I made of going private. Especially the words that I used in making the blogosphere know about it. So let me see... If I remember it correctly, Angelopaolo, my sisterhoods Kaizen and Turismoboi, shamasu, and Kapatid na Gripen,, too name a few, who made an assumption that I had a problem with my relationship with My Bebhe. and I understand where they're coming from! I mean for goodness sake! This blog is made for my Bebhe! If I were in their shoes, I will be thinking the same thing! Because I will be concerned for my well being. And I can feel that they feel the same way. So guys, THANK YOU!

So what is the real reason behind my abrupt disappearance. Well honestly, I just lost the fire of writing. I lost the drive. No that my relationship with Bebhe started to become dull and unintersting that I can't write anything about it. On the contrary, so much was happening that I can't get my wits together to write something about it. So instead of seeing my blog everyday and frustrating over not being able to write a thing, I went private. And I got more than what I bargained for! Not only was I able to rekindle the blogger in me, I also got my priorities straight and got to spend more time with my Bebhe. Isn't that great?!?

Lastly, and I just want to say this, thank you guys for all the support and loving that me and my Bebhe receive from you everday. We both appreciate it more than you think.




"Diamonds are rare and expensive but nothing compared to a true friend" - Anon

A Year At Last

Last October 28 we celebrated our first anniversary. And to commemorate our union, we made sure that we have enough time for each other on that very special day. Although most of our time was spent sleeping beside each other and arguing when we were awake, I can still say that all in all, that day was one of the happiest day of my life. Why, you might ask. What made my day at all when we don't seem to have done something special? All I can say is just being with my Bebhe makes that day worthwhile. Watching my Bebhe sleep and listen to his subtle snores that are like music to my ears. Those things, my friends, made my day. Because I believe that it was not the fancy food or the expensive suite or even the great sex will make that day memorable. A year or two from now, we will not remember where we had our first anniversary. Rather, we will remember how we cuddled each other. How we laugh at each other's recorded snores. And how we made it through a year.

To you my Bebhe, I love you.